Anne* is a 44-year-old woman, who lives with her two children and is developing an online health and wellness business.
After 10 years of marriage, when her children were 5 and 8, Anne’s husband left her for another woman with whom, it later became clear, he had been having an affair for at least a year. His departure was a huge shock to Anne, who had been unaware of anything amiss in their marriage which could not be seen as the normal ups and downs of any relationship.
After her husband left, Anne experienced depression and debilitating anxiety for the first time in her life. She was also experiencing grief for the loss of what “could have been” – a happy, stable family life for her family. Her husband was showing little commitment to their children, and made little attempt to spend time with them, all of which compounded her distress.
Anne described herself as feeling ‘alone’, ‘shocked’, ‘sad’, ‘angry’, ‘scared’, ‘confused’, ‘worthless’ and ‘not coping’. She felt ‘unworthy’ of love and respect’, and that everything was her fault.
Anne experienced serious illness very early in her life, spending the first 6 months of her life in hospital with life-threatening pneumonia. Although now a fit and sporty woman, her life had been affected by several health issues, varying in seriousness. Her life was characterized by bullying during her childhood and adulthood, and some instability.
Between the time her husband left her (three weeks before we worked together), and our sessions, Anne had regularly visited a psychologist. She had found these appointments helpful, as they gave her a chance to freely talk about her feelings and what she was going through. However, they didn’t improve her anxiety levels, or her depression.
Anne wanted to feel strong and confident, calm, resilient, and in control. She wanted to lower her anxiety levels and increase her energy levels, and feel like she was a rock for her children. She wanted to feel like the future would be ‘ok’, confident that she would cope as a single mother. Anne also wanted to increase her self-worth, and to feel worthy of good treatment from others.
Anne completed the homework exercise, listing the most distressing events in her life, and a list of desired outcomes from our work together. She then went on to undertake 3 sessions of TRTP. The sessions were each a week apart.
Anne described her first session as “life-changing”. She felt calmer, stronger, more confident, and worthy of respectful treatment from others. She felt like her resilience was “back”.
After Session 2 Anne felt an increased sense of empowerment towards her current situation, and towards events of the past which had been distressing when she completed the homework exercise, and which now felt like “nothing”.
Anne reported that she was feeling much more in control, that the ongoing unacceptable behaviour of her husband was affecting her less. She had set more boundaries in terms of her husband’s family, with whom she was in communication, in order to protect herself and her calmer state. She felt more rested, able to sleep through the night for the first time since the separation. She also felt relief from the sense of guilt and inadequacy she had been carrying regarding her parenting, due to both the marriage failure and other events.
Pre-TRTP: DASS 21 Results* (taken at the beginning of Session 1)
Post-TRTP: DASS 21 Results (taken at the beginning of Session 3)
Anne followed up 1.5 months after our last session. Understandably, she was still finding the behaviour of her husband challenging, as they began to negotiate the details of their separation and preparation for divorce. We did a little more work around state regulation and calm assertiveness, and she was given a short recording recorded specifically for her to use daily, to support her through this difficult time. She later reported that this gave her the ability to “be in the place” she wanted to be for the day ahead.
*The DASS is a self-report scale designed to measure the negative emotional states of depression, anxiety and stress. It has been shown to be a valid and reliable measure of these psychological states as well as tapping into a more general dimension of psychological distress. Please note, DASS scores are often doubled for a clinical assessment. Here I leave them not doubled.
Proudly reporting in that I have never been so busy with work and getting away but never so consciously aware that I now have a choice to not buy into that but rock on anyway and achieve exactly the same amazing outcome but with my stomach, nerves and head intact… this is a new experience for me, and I believe I will call it “peaceful excellence”. Thank you.
I have gone through Sally’s program and can honestly say I feel like a different woman. That internal doubt and the negative dialogue in my head has vanished – the biggest impact is I don’t waste my time or energy on worrying anymore!
As one of the many human beings on earth who experienced growing pains in their childhood teenage years and even adulthood. There were things in both my personal and professional life that were holding me back from being the best that I could be.
So, when Sally told me that I would experience complete freedom in three hypnotherapy sessions, I booked my first session right away. And freedom is what I got. Now I don’t have to will myself or psych myself into acting a certain way. I just am because all the chains have been broken.
It’s been life-transforming to finally gain this deep sense of peace, confidence and belief in myself.
My work with Sally has been nothing short of life-changing. Although I entered our sessions a bit dubious that my lifetime of anxiety could be shifted, from the very first appointment, I felt the impact of our work. I felt it in that session, and I continued to feel it very strongly in the days afterwards. Even now, more than a month after that session, it's clear that a permanent shift occurred in terms of how I see my world, and how I process things that used to send me into an anxious spiral.
I was surprised by the depth of my reactions to past negative experiences during my treatments and the relief that I have enjoyed following them.
I hand on heart quite simply love how I now feel.
I can't tell you how good it feels to be 'me' again. It's been a monumental shift, and in so many ways it's so apt that our work coincided with the change of seasons because it feels like spring for me - inside and out - everything coming into bloom again.
The results are profound. I feel lighter, calmer and more positive than I ever thought was possible. The knot of stress in my belly has gone, as have the negative thought patterns – the weight of all that accumulated shit has been lifted. It’s transformative. I spent 45 years living with a burden that I didn’t need to carry. The next 45years will be amazing.
For anyone who understands the importance of mindset, values their mental health, and knows the key to success is believing in yourself – and yet has that negative self- talk… enough is enough!
After TRTP my general wellbeing improved remarkably. I am more rational, relaxed and better able to organise my time. I feel more carefree and confident, much happier, joyous and appreciative of so much in my everyday life. I make time for what and who is important to me, for my general wellbeing, as well as enjoying much more settled sleep patterns.
A key indicator of how effective this treatment was for me is that when we started, I was dreading an upcoming international trip for all the anxiety it would undoubtedly cause me, breaking from my routine and travelling long distances. I write this now, incredibly excited about embarking on that trip tomorrow, feeling nothing but happy anticipation about a lovely holiday.
I found the sessions both relaxing and emotional, a release of negative feelings that had been held in my subconscious since childhood, and a great relief both physically and emotionally. They have proven to be a real circuit breaker and have taken so much of the angst from my life! It has been an incredibly positive experience for me, and I am truly grateful to Sally for steering me through it with such sensitivity and with such positive results.