Judy* is a 68-year-old retired woman who lives with her husband and has many artistic interests.
Judy had spent her life undervaluing herself, always putting others first, and with little self-love or self-respect. In her early sixties, some childhood memories surfaced, which lead her to believe that at around age four she was sexually abused by her father, who had also been an extremely undermining, destructive, controlling and dominating influence over her life.
Since these memories had surfaced she had suffered high-level anxiety, panic attacks and disrupted sleep. She described herself as feeling “worthless”, “out of control”, “anxious”, “highly emotional” and “lacking purpose”.
Judy comes from a family of 4 children. As the third child she felt unloved and neglected by her mother, and though she had felt loved by her father - she only realised years later just how conditional his love was, and how manipulative he had been towards her all the years she had lived at home. Her father worked long hours and, after work, would spend time socialising with friends, rather than with family. Judy also felt her mother had been jealous of her, her beauty and the attention Judy received from her father, and was emotionally absent her whole childhood.
In her early sixties a distressing life event had prompted Judy to see a counsellor for a period of several months. Whilst this had helped her gain a perspective on her behaviours, responses and beliefs about herself, it did not help her to change them. Unfortunately, some of the things said to her in her counselling sessions were destructive and painful, such as: “You need to realise, you are damaged goods.”
Judy wanted to increase her sense of self-worth, and to begin to value herself more. She wanted to feel peace and resolution in terms of her father, free of the dogma she had been indoctrinated with as a child, and to feel calmer and more joyful. She wanted to feel free to do what she wanted to do – to be able to prioritise this – with the people she cared about, and wanted to spend time with. She also wanted to be unaffected by certain people in her life who had always undermined her and made her feel bad about herself.
Judy completed the homework exercise, outlining the most stressful events in her life, and a list of desired outcomes for our work together. Her homework highlighted a childhood during which she was constantly undermined, where things she cared about were taken from her, in which any sense of self-worth was constantly stripped from her, and where her mother was emotionally unavailable.
She then went on to undertake 4 sessions of TRTP within a 16 day period.
Judy felt much more grounded and calm after Session 1, and listened to a recording of session 1 daily (sometimes twice daily) until her second session, four days later.
After Session 2 Judy felt a definite shift in recall of certain distressing life events, and in certain destructive relationships in her life.
After this session Judy felt liberated. She felt a sense of relief and resolution in terms of her childhood and her parents. She became very clear on whom she wanted to spend time with in her life, and what she wanted to do, and also became very clear on what was unimportant – people and activities she didn’t want to “waste time and energy on”. She felt strong in herself, and worthy of respect and self-respect.
Judy reported that her anxiety had gone, and she was feeling rested. She felt calm and grounded, and was sleeping soundly through the night. She was feeling no sense of stress or “pressure”, which had previously been constant throughout her life. When asked about certain people in her life who had had a major destructive influence, and who had triggered her anxiety and sense of worthlessness, she responded with “Pfff… they don’t matter”.
Pre -TRTP: DASS 21 Results*
Depression - Normal, Mild, Moderate (9), Severe, Extremely Severe
Anxiety - Normal, Mild, Moderate, Severe (8), Extremely Severe
Stress - Normal, Mild, Moderate, Severe, Extremely Severe (17)
Post -TRTP: DASS 21 Results
Depression – Normal (0), Mild, Moderate, Severe, Extremely Severe
Anxiety – Normal (0), Mild, Moderate, Severe, Extremely Severe
Stress – Normal (1), Mild, Moderate, Severe, Extremely Severe
Judy followed up 6.5 weeks after our last session. She reported feeling much more “in control” of her life and her feelings, and unaffected by what she had referred to as “negative influences”. She was feeling calm and grounded. Her changes were so profound that she could barely remember what it was to feel “stressed” all the time, and unable to “just stop”, as she had felt before our work. She was consciously choosing whom she wanted to spend time with, and felt no sense of being overwhelmed.
*The DASS is a self-report scale designed to measure the negative emotional states of depression, anxiety and stress. It has been shown to be a valid and reliable measure of these psychological states as well as tapping into a more general dimension of psychological distress. Please note, DASS scores are often doubled for a clinical assessment. Here I leave them not doubled.
Proudly reporting in that I have never been so busy with work and getting away but never so consciously aware that I now have a choice to not buy into that but rock on anyway and achieve exactly the same amazing outcome but with my stomach, nerves and head intact… this is a new experience for me, and I believe I will call it “peaceful excellence”. Thank you.
I have gone through Sally’s program and can honestly say I feel like a different woman. That internal doubt and the negative dialogue in my head has vanished – the biggest impact is I don’t waste my time or energy on worrying anymore!
As one of the many human beings on earth who experienced growing pains in their childhood teenage years and even adulthood. There were things in both my personal and professional life that were holding me back from being the best that I could be.
So, when Sally told me that I would experience complete freedom in three hypnotherapy sessions, I booked my first session right away. And freedom is what I got. Now I don’t have to will myself or psych myself into acting a certain way. I just am because all the chains have been broken.
It’s been life-transforming to finally gain this deep sense of peace, confidence and belief in myself.
My work with Sally has been nothing short of life-changing. Although I entered our sessions a bit dubious that my lifetime of anxiety could be shifted, from the very first appointment, I felt the impact of our work. I felt it in that session, and I continued to feel it very strongly in the days afterwards. Even now, more than a month after that session, it's clear that a permanent shift occurred in terms of how I see my world, and how I process things that used to send me into an anxious spiral.
I was surprised by the depth of my reactions to past negative experiences during my treatments and the relief that I have enjoyed following them.
I hand on heart quite simply love how I now feel.
I can't tell you how good it feels to be 'me' again. It's been a monumental shift, and in so many ways it's so apt that our work coincided with the change of seasons because it feels like spring for me - inside and out - everything coming into bloom again.
The results are profound. I feel lighter, calmer and more positive than I ever thought was possible. The knot of stress in my belly has gone, as have the negative thought patterns – the weight of all that accumulated shit has been lifted. It’s transformative. I spent 45 years living with a burden that I didn’t need to carry. The next 45years will be amazing.
For anyone who understands the importance of mindset, values their mental health, and knows the key to success is believing in yourself – and yet has that negative self- talk… enough is enough!
After TRTP my general wellbeing improved remarkably. I am more rational, relaxed and better able to organise my time. I feel more carefree and confident, much happier, joyous and appreciative of so much in my everyday life. I make time for what and who is important to me, for my general wellbeing, as well as enjoying much more settled sleep patterns.
A key indicator of how effective this treatment was for me is that when we started, I was dreading an upcoming international trip for all the anxiety it would undoubtedly cause me, breaking from my routine and travelling long distances. I write this now, incredibly excited about embarking on that trip tomorrow, feeling nothing but happy anticipation about a lovely holiday.
I found the sessions both relaxing and emotional, a release of negative feelings that had been held in my subconscious since childhood, and a great relief both physically and emotionally. They have proven to be a real circuit breaker and have taken so much of the angst from my life! It has been an incredibly positive experience for me, and I am truly grateful to Sally for steering me through it with such sensitivity and with such positive results.